Burning your baggage is a little like burning your bridges, BUT it is not the same thing. Burning a bridge usually involves at least two people…maybe more. We usually burn our bridges because we want to sever a connection with something or someone. The bridge was the thing that connected us…usually a relationship; a friendship, a marriage, a job, sometimes even family.
Burning bridges usually involves an interaction within the relationship; a singular or joint action that is supposed to permanently end the involvement…often seen as so violent or unpleasant that neither party wants to reconnect.
Burning baggage is a very singular and private experience. It also involves ending a relationship, but it usually YOUR relationship with YOUR past. It can be done in private, completely in your head and heart, or it can involve a physical act…a ritual – that symbolizes the drama of letting go of something you’ve been carrying around, on your shoulders, your back, or dragging behind you on a long rope. If you have a lot of baggage, you may require one of those large baggage carts that are at the airport, so you have to push it in front of you rather than drag it. The disadvantage to this method, is that, then,it becomes the first thing anyone sees before they actually see YOU…
They see your enormous amount of baggage that appears to go wherever you go.
When this is the case, the most effective way to get rid of the baggage is simply to set it on fire! Although this sounds violent, it isn’t. The fact is, it can be very sweet, poignant, powerful and provide a sense of enormous relief from all the weight. My favorite ritual is using candles, but writing words on paper and torching them into the fireplace, also works wonders. Some common baggage is fear of abandonment or rejection, fear of success, anger, psychic pain, guilt, expectations, assumptions, neediness, blah, blah, blah…the list could go on and on.
In order to fill the vacancy of the baggage, you can also light candles for the things you want…acceptance, healing, clarity, closure, new beginnings, etc. etc.
I just learned the word “kabala” about two weeks ago. It is also spelled kabbalah. It is an ancient Hebrew/Jewish word for the mystical act of waiting to receive. My interpretation is: You put it out there (what you want), and then you wait…whether you want healing and freedom from the past or a fresh new start. Lovely idea, as old as Solomon.
More next chapter…it’s all about being in the moment.